That I knew the magic formula

I used to think

That I knew the magic formula 

for successful marriages/relationships

Love, time together, communicate..

Divorce rates are high

Families whose children have special needs,

their rates are even higher rates!

I've already been a static once.

So as I walked 

through the journey of fostering

with the man I'd known half my life

I thought we could make it.

Love

- got that one covered

Make time for each other

- well, when there was time left..

Communicate 

- yup. I talked, he listened..

And when things weren't working

- head to counselling

But nothing I did or tried could change

his not wanting to be a dad to a kid with autism.

Perhaps it was an excuse to not commit

but the reason he gave still stings.

So 4 yrs after becoming a parent 

I sit here single and look around 

at couples (with kids with ASD) who are together

 and they didn't follow the magic formula!

So what's your secret?

Please share so I can find the right formula!

Or maybe there isn't one...

How each family makes it work IS the magic.